The Top 3 Things I Learned in My Pre-Command Spouse's Course

I just came home from an (awesome) week-long pre-command spouse’s training in Grafenwoehr, Germany.

30 Captains, Majors, and First Sergeants met in one classroom while six spouses met down the hall each day last week. We came from all over Europe (Germany, Italy, Belgium, the Netherlands) to take the course, and I can’t tell you how glad I am that I was able to go.

Spouse Course

In no particular order, here are three of the biggest take-aways from the week’s class:

1. Fake it Till You Make It

Sometimes you just have to pretend to be confident, even if you have no idea what you’re doing. A positive attitude and a little confidence (even if it’s fake at first!) go a long way.

2. Resources Aren’t Always on Google

The fact is that organizations on your post are strapped for resources, and websites aren’t always usually kept up-to-date. OPSEC sometimes dictates what can or can’t be posted online, and it’s common practice (as much as it makes my marketing strategist’s head hurt) to simply post PDFs of even fliers to organizational Facebook pages and call it a day.

The bottom line is that the resources out there for military families might not be searchable online, so don’t get frustrated if Google isn’t helpful.

If you’re looking for resources for kids, call or visit your installation’s Child and Youth Services (CYS) office, and if you’re looking for resources for adults, call or visit your Army Community Services (ACS) office. And be sure that you’re on your FRG or FRSA’s email list (your husband should be able to provide your information to them) at each new duty station.

3. Installations Need Volunteers

Organizations that offer services to military families depend on help from volunteers. If you have the time and interest, most organizations on post can use volunteer support. If you’re not sure who to contact, try the American Red Cross, the USO, ACS, CYS, or MWR (Morale Wellness & Recreation).

FRG trainings, resiliency workshops, and Strong Bonds retreats are all common offerings in the Army. I’m curious to know: have you attended anything like this? And what did you learn?


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