Why He's Not "My Soldier"

When I met my husband, I didn’t meet a soldier — I met a man. When we went on our first dates together, I was on those dates with Nick, not with [insert rank] [insert surname]. When he kissed me for the first time, the only thing remotely military in … Continue reading

The Inspired Spouse: Alyson Schumacher (Part 2)

Yesterday on Marrying the Army, I introduced Alyson Schumacher, who was working on her master’s degree at Hunter College in New York City when 9/11 happened. Her husband — who was living 40 miles away from the Pentagon on at Quantico then — was deployed as part of the Initial Invasion … Continue reading

Raison D'Etre

I’ve been quiet on Marrying the Army, Facebook and Twitter this week, and although it wasn’t scheduled quiet time, I’m glad that I took it. Not so long ago, Nick and I thought that we were trading in the Army life in for civilian life. As a result, I was … Continue reading

Pat's Run

Each year, the Pat Tillman Foundation hosts a 4.2-mile fundraiser run to support the Tillman Military Scholars. My husband’s parents have run all 9 Pat’s Run events, and this year we were in Tempe, Arizona to run it with them. The 4.2-mile race — one of the largest races in America — … Continue reading

Redeployment Ball


One of the highlights of my husband’s homecoming from Afghanistan was his unit’s redeployment ball. He and I have been so busy preparing for our PCS though that I’d forgotten to share our story. I’d attended a few formal Air Force Academy events as a date to my brother’s friends … Continue reading

Spouse's Reconnection Workshop #1

Tonight after work, I made my way to Fort Carson for my first of two Spouse’s Reconnection workshops. These will be followed by a three-phase Spouse’s Re-Integration training over the next six or eight weeks. I like to joke that reintegrating will be like riding a bike; once we’re together … Continue reading

Running Through Deployment: Races #12 and #13

The last two races of “Running Through Deployment” have been one of the best and one of the worst races I’ve ever run, respectively. On July 21st, I ran the Grand Prix of Running Classic 10K – Race #12 of Running Through Deployment. I’d run much of the Colorado Springs course in … Continue reading

This is Marrying the Army

We get to talk so infrequently, and our chats are so short that sometimes when he says goodbye, I can feel him slipping away – a cool mercury that I can’t hold onto no matter how hard I try. In winter, when the air is bitter outside but warm inside, … Continue reading

Running Through the Deployment Race #3: Cherry Blossom 10-Miler

Cherry Blossom 10 Mile Run

When I think about Nick’s deployment, I think about running. I think about emotions that are sometimes more complex than I’m able to understand, and about anger that boils up inside me at the thought of how many odds we’re up against as newlyweds. I think about how good it … Continue reading

Brides Across America

Last week I had one of the most touching experiences of my adult life. I was given a beautiful, brand new, free wedding dress — no strings attached — just because I’m a military fiance as part of a program called Brides Across America. In order to qualify, brides can’t yet … Continue reading

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